Disappointment in love: how to overcome it?

Disappointment in love: how to overcome it?
Extract from the article: Disappointment in love is when the person you love becomes very disillusioned with you. It's a state caused by dissatisfaction or failure in a relationship, such as a break-up, betrayal, unrequited love or adultery. There are many causes of disappoin

Disappointment in love is when the person you love becomes very disillusioned with you. It's a state caused by dissatisfaction or failure in a relationship, such as a break-up, betrayal, unrequited love or adultery. There are many causes of disappointment in love. But the consequences include suffering, sadness, anger, alcoholism, death by suicide, loss of self-confidence or self-esteem. What can you do to get through it? Here are some tips for overcoming disappointment in love.

The feeling of love is a deep affection that leads to attachment to the person loved.An intense attachment encompassing tenderness and physical attraction, respect, devotion and a sense of duty.To love is to know how to pour out one's heart by expressing one's joys, happiness, sorrows and disappointments.Ending love is often painful.This is the testimony of Anselme, Teacher, who suffered the end, the dissolution of the love between him and Elisabeth.‘ I loved her for 03 years and then she left me for another guy,’ laments Anselme, a 30-year-old who couldn't afford to buy an iPhone for his girlfriend Elisabeth. ‘ At one point, she asked me to buy her an iPhone; as I was also going through a financial crisis, I suggested she wait, as the range of iPhones she wanted would cost me nearly 300,000 CFA francs. Elisabeth took advantage of this situation to go back to her ex, who offered her the phone. That's what broke us up, and it wasn't easy to bear,’ he confides. Goumin’ situations are rife in Lomé these days. It has repercussions on the health and mental well-being of the victim.

La rupture fait d’autant plus mal que l’on ne s’y attendait pas. La rupture entraîne une réactivation d’angoisses antérieures. L’individu éprouvé a l’impression que le monde s’écroule autour de lui, que la terre se dérobe sous ses pieds. Il éprouve un sentiment de vide. La rupture entraîne la tristesse, de la colère contre soi et contre l’autre, la culpabilité. Elle peut se dérouler de manière plus ou moins difficile selon les individus et les contextes. Certains s’adaptent plus rapidement alors que d’autres éprouvent d’énormes difficultés.

Comment s’en sortir ?

La rupture d’une relation amoureuse n’est pas la fin du monde. Pour se sortir de la situation difficile, il est utile d’accepter la situation, prendre du temps et du recul, regarder la réalité avec discernement, ne pas réprimer le besoin de pleurer. Il faut s’occuper à des activités enrichissantes, pardonner l’autre, s’appuyer sur les personnes qui vous aiment le plus, lire, écouter de la musique, sortir, rencontrer d’autres personnes.

Jean ELI

Author
santé éducation
Editor
Abel OZIH

Disappointment in love is when the person you love becomes very disillusioned with you. It's a state caused by dissatisfaction or failure in a relationship, such as a break-up, betrayal, unrequited love or adultery. There are many causes of disappoin

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