Disappointment in love: how to overcome it?
- Posted on 06/09/2022 21:54
- Film
- By abelozih@sante-education.tg
Extract from the article: Disappointment in love is when the person you love becomes very disillusioned with you. It's a state caused by dissatisfaction or failure in a relationship, such as a break-up, betrayal, unrequited love or adultery. There are many causes of disappoin
Disappointment
in love is when the person you love becomes very disillusioned with you. It's a state caused by
dissatisfaction or failure in a relationship, such as a break-up, betrayal,
unrequited love or adultery. There are many causes of
disappointment in love. But the consequences include suffering, sadness, anger,
alcoholism, death by suicide, loss of self-confidence or
self-esteem. What
can you do to get through it? Here are some tips for overcoming
disappointment in love.
The feeling of love is a
deep affection that leads to attachment to the person loved.An intense
attachment encompassing tenderness and physical attraction, respect, devotion
and a sense of duty.To love is to know how to pour out one's heart by
expressing one's joys, happiness, sorrows and disappointments.Ending love is
often painful.This is the testimony
of Anselme, Teacher, who suffered the end, the dissolution of
the love between him and Elisabeth.‘ I loved her for 03 years and then she
left me for another guy,’ laments Anselme, a 30-year-old who couldn't
afford to buy an iPhone for his girlfriend Elisabeth. ‘ At one point, she
asked me to buy her an iPhone; as I was also going through a financial crisis,
I suggested she wait, as the range of iPhones she wanted would cost me nearly
300,000 CFA francs. Elisabeth took advantage of this situation to go
back to her ex, who offered her the phone. That's what broke us up, and
it wasn't easy to bear,’ he confides. Goumin’ situations are rife in Lomé
these days. It has repercussions on the health and mental well-being of the
victim.
La rupture fait d’autant
plus mal que l’on ne s’y attendait pas. La rupture entraîne une réactivation
d’angoisses antérieures. L’individu éprouvé a l’impression que le monde
s’écroule autour de lui, que la terre se dérobe sous ses pieds. Il éprouve un
sentiment de vide. La rupture entraîne la tristesse, de la colère contre soi et
contre l’autre, la culpabilité. Elle peut se dérouler de manière plus ou moins
difficile selon les individus et les contextes. Certains s’adaptent plus
rapidement alors que d’autres éprouvent d’énormes difficultés.
Comment s’en sortir
?
La rupture d’une relation
amoureuse n’est pas la fin du monde. Pour se sortir de la situation difficile,
il est utile d’accepter la situation, prendre du temps et du recul, regarder la
réalité avec discernement, ne pas réprimer le besoin de pleurer. Il faut
s’occuper à des activités enrichissantes, pardonner l’autre, s’appuyer sur les
personnes qui vous aiment le plus, lire, écouter de la musique, sortir,
rencontrer d’autres personnes.
Jean ELI