Couple : Small or large penis, a source of frustration?

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Extract from the article: Des sexologues reçoivent d'ailleurs en consultation un certain nombre de patients pour le motif d’un sexe trop petit ou trop grand à leur goût. Certains hommes restent anxieux à cause de leur taille parce qu’ils savent bien que leurs femmes rigolent

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Sexologists see a number of patients because their sex is too small or too big for their taste. Some men remain anxious about their size because they know that their wives often laugh at the sight of a small penis. As a result, they avoid sexual activity because their penis prevents them from having an orgasm and doesn't help them give their wives pleasure. How can this be explained?

The size of a man's penis is often one of his biggest complexes. Many men believe that the size of their genital organ influences their wife's pleasure. French sexologist Dr Catherine Solano explains why.

Do two bodies need to be sexually compatible?

Yes and no. Yes, because to experience sexual pleasure, the bodies need to fit together sexually. Because it's intimate contact that creates the pressure and friction that trigger pleasure.

Is it possible for the penis to be too short, and therefore not the right length?

Not unless there is a real anomaly. The vagina measures 8 cm at rest and 12 cm when excited. The average penis measures between 12 and 17 cm when erect. So it's always quite long. All the more so since the G-spot, the area reputed to be the most receptive to pleasure in women, is located just 4 cm from the entrance to the vagina.

Can the male sex be too narrow to give pleasure?

No, not any more, there's usually no problem. In fact, do you know how wide the vagina is? Simple, it's zero cm. The vagina is said to be a virtual cavity. Its two walls touch. So when the penis enters, these two walls move apart. The penis cannot therefore be wide in the vagina, even when it is rather narrow.

Some women complain that their husband's penis is too thin and that they experience few sensations. Why is this?

When a woman complains that her partner's sex is too thin, in reality it's her own vagina that is hypotonic, i.e. its walls are not firm enough.In fact, even when the penis touches the walls of the vagina, what causes pleasure is the pressure applied. If the walls of the vagina are not toned enough, or are a little soft, they press in instead of resisting, and the woman feels little pressure, and therefore little pleasure.

What can be done when a woman has this problem of hypotonia and feels little pleasure?

The woman needs to tone up her vaginal walls.To do this, she needs to practise perineal muscle training, which tones the muscles surrounding the vagina.Because we don't tone the vaginal wall itself, but the muscles surrounding it.Women can learn how to do this from a physiotherapist specialising in post-natal rehabilitation. After childbirth, re-training the perineum is very important for regaining good sexual sensations. But that's not the only time in life when this can be done.Sometimes it's just as necessary before having a baby, or long afterwards.

A woman complains that her husband's penis is too big, and that it hurts at the start of penetration. What happens?

The penis is adaptable in width. If the vagina seems very toned, and therefore relatively narrow, the spongy body, the area under the penis, squashes to adapt.So even a male genitalia that seems voluminous will reduce in width during penetration if necessary. The glans is relatively soft, so it can be crushed on entry if necessary.On the other hand, the vagina is designed by nature to dilate considerably, since during childbirth it expands by up to 10 cm. So it can always accommodate a relatively large penis.

If a woman nevertheless feels pain that she attributes to the size of her partner's sex, the key is to extend the duration of foreplay to relax the vagina, to practise very gentle penetration so that the tip of the penis adapts, and possibly to add gel, as the difficulty may come from a lack of lubrication.

Some couples also complain that their positions are incompatible, sometimes leading to pain. Why is this?

Even when everything is going well, every couple has positions that are impossible to achieve.

The inclination of the penis varies greatly in men. It can be curved upwards and more or less curved downwards, to the right or left.As a result, certain postures will pull on the roots and cause pain. These are postures that don't suit him.It's the same for women. The vagina, even if you can't see it from the outside, has various inclinations. In certain positions, it doesn't feel right, and sends out pains to indicate this.So each couple can discover sexual positions in which they experience a great deal of pleasure, and others that don't suit them. These positions vary greatly from one couple to another.

Elom AKAKPO

Source: Priorité Santé/RFI