Couple: Secrets to a fulfilling sex life

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Extract from the article: Everyone is different and we don't all have the same expectations in terms of sexual satisfaction. Whether you're a man or a woman, the degree to which you want to make love varies from person to person, depending on the time of day or the period you

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Everyone is different and we don't all have the same expectations in terms of sexual satisfaction. Whether you're a man or a woman, the degree to which you want to make love varies from person to person, depending on the time of day or the period you're going through. So how do you know whether you're at the top of your sexual game or « below average »?  « Journal des femmes » magazine shows you the signs that your sex life is happy and fulfilling.

It's rare to associate a long-term relationship with phenomenal intimacy. Yet many couples have discovered how to spice up their sex life, even after many years together.

Make love often

Sex is the glue that holds a couple together. Those who make love often and experiment with new sensations, positions or places are generally happier together and for longer.

Loving your body

A healthy sex life starts with self-confidence.If you love your body, you'll want to have sex more.An American study published in the Journal of Sexual Medicine showed that among women aged 18 to 49, those who were most confident about their physical image were the most sexually satisfied. In fact, positive thoughts about weight, physical condition or sexual attractiveness during sex encourage healthy sexual relations. Conversely, if you have a poor image of your body or your health, your sex life may be less fulfilling.

Communicate a lot

A fulfilling sex life depends on the couple's ability to communicate, by talking about their sexual desires, fantasies and particular desires. Even if it's not always easy to communicate smoothly, you need to be able to understand your husband or wife, read their reactions and react accordingly.

Showing your wife or husband your desire

Husbands should always tell their wives that they want them and vice versa.Compliment his wife or husband on how beautiful she is or how sexy he is, either orally or via naughty text messages.If the husband tends to hug his wife often, and vice versa, to kiss her, and they easily engage in conversations or sexual acts, then the couple has a happy sex life. An American study published in the « Journal of Integrated Social Sciences » concluded that specific sexual behaviours, such as kissing or naughty words, are more closely linked to greater sexual satisfaction.But this satisfaction is also linked to good communication between husband and wife.

You're happy with your wife or husband

Generally speaking, a happy relationship goes hand in hand with a happy sex life.An American study published in the « Journal of the Archives of Sexual Behaviour » found that for middle-aged and older couples who had been in a relationship for between 1 and 51 years, happiness as a couple and sexual satisfaction were mutually reinforcing.

The couple breaks the routine

Sex can become routine in a couple.If everyone takes the initiative to break the routine and find new things to try out, you can increase your wife's or husband's sexual excitement and pleasure. However, novelty doesn't necessarily mean trying out anal sex. It can mean more subtle changes, such as a variation in rhythm or a romantic setting.

The couple doesn't count

Not all couples have the same rhythm, from once a week to once a month, so there's no point in counting. It's not productive for your sex life. You need to have confidence in yourself. Even if the quality of sex can vary enormously in frequency, the important thing is shared satisfaction.

A study published in the « Journal of Economic Behaviour and Organisations » showed that more frequent sex does not lead to greater satisfaction or happiness as a couple.

The couple has plans together

If you are one of those couples who have plans for the future, whether near or far, these plans will help you to move forward and give you the desire to continue together.Life as a couple runs the risk of becoming boring if there are no joint plans. Couples who dream and give themselves the means to achieve their common goals are more connected. They tend to stay on the same wavelength.

These projects can be as simple as the two of them making plans for the children's future, visiting in-laws, a bike ride, a restaurant at the beach, going to the cinema or spending a weekend on a farm.

Make each other laugh

We've all heard the old saying, « A woman who laughs is a woman half in bed »?  If you have a good laugh with your husband or wife and it's mutual, there's a good chance you'll make the relationship last. Between giggles and little jokes, humour brings people together.

Knowing how to argue

Even if you're more of a lover than a fighter, you may still argue.However, it's important not to let these arguments get out of hand. Care should be taken to avoid insults, shouting that wakes up the neighbours and threats to leave each other every time you get into an argument.

William O.