Sexual dissatisfaction: causes and remedies

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Extract from the article: De nombreuses frustrations peuvent influer négativement les relations sexuelles : recherche constante de performance, manque de confiance en soi, résistances liées à un traumatisme sexuel, peurs inconscientes, manque de lâcher prise, méconnaissance d

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Numerous frustrati   ons can have a negative impact on sexual relations: the constant quest for performance, lack of self-confidence, resistance linked to sexual trauma, unconscious fears, lack of letting go, ignorance of one's own body. A better understanding of these factors can help you break free.

While it's natural for many couples to experience fluctuations in sexual desire, many researchers agree that some couples find it extremely difficult to cope with these fluctuations, due to frustration, among other things. Sometimes, these dissatisfactions are overcome so painfully that they seal the deal.

Too much or too little foreplay

Before intercourse, the absence of foreplay can reduce the opportunity for orgasm. These acts help to build pleasure. However, if they drag on too long, foreplay can deplete arousal.

Focusing on one area

Exciting your husband or wife doesn't mean focusing solely on the same erogenous zone. To achieve sexual satisfaction, you need to explore the whole of your husband's or wife's body. In this way, you can surprise your husband or wife and arouse all their senses.

A sexual complex or trauma

The relationship with sexuality can be disturbed by complexes, anxieties linked to trauma or fear of judgment. If these thoughts cross your mind during the act, they prevent you from letting go and achieving a fulfilling sex life. It's essential to identify these blockages.

Lack of confidence

Whether it's your husband or your wife, a lack of self-esteem undeniably hinders sexual pleasure. If you reject the other person or feel depressed, you won't find sexual satisfaction.

Precipitous self-centred movements

Sexuality cannot be separated from sensuality. Making love allows you to create a moment of harmony with your husband or wife. Avoid sudden, precipitous movements or those that excite only yourself.

A lack of listening and tenderness

Before thinking about sex, think communication. Respect, little attentions and tenderness are essential to ignite desire. Sexual relations should be neither mechanical nor an obligation.

A held-back orgasm

An orgasm that is slowed down or held back can cause great frustration. This may be due to a lack of foreplay, too much emphasis on intercourse itself without adequate clitoral stimulation, a lack of psychogenic or physiological arousal, or a problem within the couple such as lack of attraction, poor communication or anger. Take into account psychological factors such as depression, anxiety disorders, trauma or problems linked to the relationship with the body, all of which can interfere with their ability to reach orgasm.

An attempt at control

It may be easier said than done. But numerous studies on orgasm show that surrendering allows you to enjoy the sexual act to the full. Being a spectator, judging every move and thinking too much gets in the way of pleasure.

A quest for performance

Pressure, whether from husband or wife, is an immeasurable brake on sexual satisfaction. Make love because you feel desire and longing for the other person, not to reach orgasm or run a marathon.

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Strengthening communication

The most important thing is to communicate with your wife or husband. However, for the other person to be able to stimulate the different areas of the body that give the most pleasure, you need to know about them. A lack of exploration of one's own body can lead to frustration. Explaining your desires and preferences to your partner doesn't mean you're sexually unsatisfied. Communicating to your husband or wife what gives pleasure will enable them to be more confident in their actions during intercourse. Perhaps start by asking him or her how to give you more pleasure, so that you, in turn, can confess your own desires.

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