Relationship : Secrets to a fulfilling sex life

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Extract from the article: Everyone is different, and we don't all have the same expectations when it comes to sexual satisfaction. Whether you're a man or a woman, your desire for sex varies depending on the individual, the time of day, or the period you're going through....

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Everyone is different, and we don't all have the same expectations when it comes to sexual satisfaction. Whether you're a man or a woman, your desire for sex varies depending on the individual, the time of day, or the period you're going through. So how can you tell if you are at the peak of your sexual form or if you are ‘below average’? Here are some signs that prove you have a happy and fulfilling sex life.

It is rare to associate long-term relationships with phenomenal harmony within the couple. However, many couples have discovered how to spice up their sex life, even after several years of living together.

Making love often

Sex is the glue that holds any couple together. Those who make love often and experiment with new sensations, positions or locations are generally happier together and stay together longer.

Loving your body

A healthy sex life starts with self-confidence. If you love your body, you will want to have sex more. An American study published in the Journal of Sexual Medicine showed that among women aged 18 to 49, those who are most confident about their physical appearance are the most sexually satisfied. Positive thoughts about weight, physical condition, or sexual attractiveness during sex promote healthy sexual relationships. Conversely, if you have a poor image of your body or health, your sex life may be less fulfilling.

Communicate a lot

A fulfilling sex life depends on the couple's ability to communicate, talking about their sexual desires, fantasies, or particular desires. Even if it is not always easy to communicate smoothly, we know how to understand our husband or wife and read their reactions in order to respond accordingly.

Showing your wife or husband that you desire them

The husband always tells his wife that he desires her, and vice versa. Compliment your wife or husband by telling them they are beautiful or sexy, either verbally or via flirty text messages. If the husband tends to hug his wife often, and vice versa, kiss her and easily engage in sexual conversations or acts, then the couple has a happy sex life. An American study published in the Journal of Integrated Social Sciences concluded that specific sexual behaviours, such as kissing or naughty words, are more closely linked to greater sexual satisfaction. However, this satisfaction is also linked to good communication between husband and wife.

You are happy with your wife or husband

Generally, a happy romantic relationship corresponds to a happy sex life. An American study published in the Journal of Sexual Behaviour found that for middle-aged and older couples who had been in relationships for 1 to 51 years, happiness as a couple and sexual satisfaction reinforced each other.

Couples break the routine

Sex can become routine in a relationship. If both partners take the initiative to break habits and find new things to try, they can increase their wife or husband's sexual excitement and pleasure. Be careful, though, trying something new doesn't necessarily mean trying anal sex... It can be more subtle changes, such as varying the rhythm or setting a romantic mood.

The couple doesn't count

Not all couples have the same rhythm, from once a week to once a month, there's no point in counting. It's not productive for your sex life. You have to keep your self-confidence. Even if the quality of sex can vary greatly in frequency, the important thing is mutual satisfaction.

A study published in the Journal of Economic Behaviour & Organisation showed that increased frequency of sexual intercourse does not lead to greater satisfaction or happiness in a relationship.

The couple has plans together.

If you are one of those couples who have plans for the future, whether near or far, these plans help you move forward and make you want to continue together. Life as a couple can become boring if you don't have any plans together. Couples who dream and give themselves the means to achieve their common goals are more connected. They tend to stay on the same wavelength.

These plans can be simple to do together: planning and thinking about the children's future, visiting the in-laws, going for a bike ride, eating at a beach restaurant, going to the cinema, spending a weekend on a farm.

Make each other laugh

You know the saying, ‘A woman who laughs is halfway into your bed’? If you have a good laugh with your husband or wife and it's mutual, you're more likely to have a lasting relationship. Between fits of laughter and little jokes, humour brings people closer together.

Know how to argue

Even if you're more the make-up than make-out type, arguments do happen. However, it's important to prevent these arguments from taking a turn for the worse. Carefully avoid insults, shouting that wakes the neighbours, and threats to leave each other every time you have a disagreement.

William O.

Source: ‘Journal des femmes’